When I decide something, I have the following points in my mind.
It’s not if it will be gain or loss for me. It’s not if it will be right or wrong in the social rules. The points are I don’t lie to myself and I am honest with myself.
In the past I often chose things even though they were not the real decisions in my mind. Outwardly I was fine but I didn’t feel happy inside myself at all. It was an inevitable result because I ignored my mind.
It’s easy to choose the safe and secure things without listening to our mind and we might feel happy in a moment. But sooner or later this happiness will be finished.
When we decide something with our mind, it can be a hard decision and make us unhappy sometimes. But when we think back what we have done, we know it was right.
The mind knows how to become happy.